There is an old Chinese saying: “Man is fire, woman is water. The man fire brings the woman water to boiling.” These days most women want orgasms. That wasn’t always the case. Not much more than a generation ago, many adult females simply did not have climaxes – and a lot of them were not bothered about it. The big difference between male and female orgasm is that after the first climax, many women can “come” again, often within a minute or two. As always, the most important key to creating a better sex life is honest communication between you and your lover. After that you have got to realize that it is not a mechanical thing (unlike in men).

The top factors that have to be there for a real female orgasm to occur:

• Comfortable surroundings
• A partner she really likes
• Kissing and cuddling for at least 10-20 minutes
• A partner who know how to rub the clitoris right

Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the her clitoris. Nearly all females need additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth. Another important thing to remember when looking into female orgasm techniques is communication about sex. Ask her what she likes and if she isn’t too shy ask her to show you.

Women know exactly what they want and nobody can give you better orgasm tips than the person themselves. Don’t be afraid to ask her what she wants and use your mouth and your tongue wherever possible too.