Every man thinks that he is funny, dresses well and performs well in bed. However this is not always the truth as once you find yourself in an intimate setting with a beautiful woman, you can make or break what happens next simply by practicing the art of erotic lovemaking and perpetual pleasure of your woman. While becoming a great lover may take a bit of practice with your wife, especially if you have got an adventurous woman in your life, you can avoid making very simple, juvenile and rudimentary mistakes to make your wife one happy woman.

Let us now take a look at a few common ones.

1. Slow down: Lust and passion are a great thing and a huge turn on, but sometimes your woman simply wants you to take the scenic route to get to the destination. Do not rush through the night and you will not regret it.

2. Be Attentive: Don’t gloss over her erogenous zones. Pay attention to what turns her on, listen, observe and obey. Nothing is a huge turn off than a guy who simply does not notice what is working…and what isn’t.

3. Communication: Being able to share your thoughts, passions, and erotic fantasies with your lover is a very powerful aphrodisiac. If you are not able to say anything that adds to the romantic ambiance, you can at least master the art of subtle, non verbal communication. Being a bump on the log in the bedroom when it comes to sharing communication cues is a big no, no…especially if you are in a relationship longer than a week or two.

And of course there is much more but by simply not making the short sighted, seduction mistakes outlined above, you will certainly be on your way to becoming a better lover for your life-partner easily…I guarantee it!

Over the years, I have observed a common trend with women, not all women but a sizeable portion of the female population, they seem to be very insecure physically and sexually. In my opinion, these insecurities lead women to do some detrimental things in and to their relationships. Women, you need to empower yourselves. Embrace your body (it is the only one you own), get informed about what you like and don’t like sexually and learn that sex is meant to be enjoyed. It is very important to remember that communication is the key to any great relationship and a sexual relationship is no different. Everyone has insecurities but they do not have to interfere in a healthy relationship. Talk to your partner about the insecurities you have, work on them and get ride of them, or at least get them at a manageable level.

Here are a few tips to help you become the woman you and your man would like you to be, a confident woman who doesn’t focus on your (or his) previous relationships and a woman who communicates not criticizes:

1. Know you are a goddess! Show that confidence. It is very intoxicating to a man if you show him how confident you are about yourself and your sexual techniques. Men love it when women aren’t insecure about themselves or their relationships. If you don’t quite believe you are a goddess yet, try to wear things that make you feel sexy and confident, go get a makeover at the salon, get your nails done and keep telling yourself you are a sexy goddess until it becomes a reality for you. Just remember to keep doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Get a hobby or an activity that is all your own. That will help build confidence as well. It also shows your man that you have your own interests outside the relationship.

2. Ladies, stop asking your men about previous girlfriends and the sexual acts they performed on your man. You don’t need to know that and I’m sure he doesn’t really want to talk to you about it. It only leads to feelings of jealousy and that has no place in a healthy relationship. The same goes for you, stop telling him about your ex-boyfriends and what things they may have done for you sexually or how many times a day you did it, etc…etc. Men don’t want to feel like they are being compared just like you don’t want to drive yourself crazy thinking about everything his ex did with him and trying to live up to some standard you have created in your mind. You were not there you couldn’t possibly know what they were like together and besides there are reasons these people are ex-boyfriends/ex-girlfriends let it go and don’t bring the toxic feelings about your ex’s into your current relationship. Your man is with you, not them, start fresh and leave those ex’s in the past were they belong.

3. Never criticize your man’s efforts in the bedroom. Criticizing is a way of telling him he is not doing things the way you want them done. This can be very hurtful and one of the biggest turn-offs to the person who is being criticized and also often leads to resentment. It maybe true that you are not getting the results you want in the bedroom but criticizing him about it is not the way to fix it. Instead be direct and communicate with your man. It is not his fault he does not know what you like if you have not told him already in no uncertain terms. Tell him what you want and how you want it. He is then not left guessing about where he stands in his abilities and he does not feel stupid because you belittled him about his technique.

Remember, do not be so hard on yourself, enjoy your body, love your life, don’t try to be someone you are not and above all else try to be happy about anything and everything as much as possible.

There is an old Chinese saying: “Man is fire, woman is water. The man fire brings the woman water to boiling.” These days most women want orgasms. That wasn’t always the case. Not much more than a generation ago, many adult females simply did not have climaxes – and a lot of them were not bothered about it. The big difference between male and female orgasm is that after the first climax, many women can “come” again, often within a minute or two. As always, the most important key to creating a better sex life is honest communication between you and your lover. After that you have got to realize that it is not a mechanical thing (unlike in men).

The top factors that have to be there for a real female orgasm to occur:

• Comfortable surroundings
• A partner she really likes
• Kissing and cuddling for at least 10-20 minutes
• A partner who know how to rub the clitoris right

Please bear in mind that – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the her clitoris. Nearly all females need additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth. Another important thing to remember when looking into female orgasm techniques is communication about sex. Ask her what she likes and if she isn’t too shy ask her to show you.

Women know exactly what they want and nobody can give you better orgasm tips than the person themselves. Don’t be afraid to ask her what she wants and use your mouth and your tongue wherever possible too.